There are a lot of ways in which no can be said.
Most everyone has experienced a variety of ways in which it has been said to them. But it can be said with tact and some kindness if given a bit of thought.
A unqualified man lacking the mental capabilities once applied to President Abraham Lincoln for the post of doorkeeper to the House. The man had no special rights to ask or even approach Lincoln about this matter. It was necessary that Lincoln decline his interest, in other words no.
"Yes, Mr. President."
"Well, have you ever been a doorkeeper? Have you ever had any experience of doorkeeping?"
"Well, no-no actual experience, sir."
"Any theoretical experience? Any instructions in the duties and ethics of doorkeeping?"
"Have you ever attended lectures on doorkeeping?"
"Have you read any text on the subject?"
"Have you conversed with anyone who has read such a book?"
"No, sir, I'm afraid no, sir."
Yes, one can be told no .........in a number of ways. There are other ways at arriving at.... "NO."
November 7, 2016