Yesterday was our wedding anniversary. Every time I buy flowers for my wife and I try to do so often, I am reminded of this lady I met one morning after buying flowers. I have messed up more than once in my life but I also try to get my wife flowers for no particular reason other I know she likes them and I like to do things for her that she likes. Plain and simple....yes I did get her roses yesterday. Below is something I wrote seven years.
Just some thoughts:
Today as I was walking out of the Fresh Market in Brentwood, Tennessee I was only a few feet into the parking lot when I saw a lady approaching me.I had gone into the store to buy a dozen roses for my wife. No particular reason, no anniversary, just some flowers for her.
It appeared there was a slight grin on her face.I would judge the lady to be about my age; neatly dressed, hair done, fashionable clothes. She had the appearance of having money. When she was just a few feet from me, she spoke. “Well, now what have we got here...what have you gone and done?” She took me by surprise, and before I could answer she stopped me and said, “I’m only kidding, anytime I see a man walking out of a store carrying flowers, especially roses, I have this urge to ask them what they did wrong.” I smiled and told her, “Well, over time I have messed up more than my share, but I’ve also tried to have a learning curve, and at times I buy my wife flowers for no particular reason.” “Well they are pretty, and I bet she will enjoy them.” Over the years I have tried with some regularity to buy my wife flowers.
As I got in the car and drove away, I looked at the flowers lying on the seat of my car and I thought, “There are a lot of things I wish I had done earlier on in my life. That also goes for in my marriage.” Things I wish I had learned about feelings, explainable and those not so easily explained feelings. I wish I had just paid more attention. So if you’re reading this, learn from my slowness and whatever it is, it’s never too late to make changes.
“What have you done now?” In the future I hope that statement will be said with excitement rather than disappointment.
May 5, 2010