There are countless things I appreciate about my wife.
One typical morning not long ago, I pulled out of our driveway. It was a great, early morning around six a.m.; the top was already down and Haggard came on for my tunes. I began thinking about my plans for the day, not only the day, but into the evening. As they ran through my mind, a word kept coming to me. The word was “space.”
After a bit of coffee my day would begin with eighteen holes of golf, pretty good way to begin any day, and then follow with two appointments (college kids) before noon. At noon, I am having lunch with a fella I often meet with for, “food and a bit of encouragement.” Following that, another meeting with a friend, and then I needed to stop at the local library for some research I was doing. At four that afternoon, I was to be at Lipscomb University for a two-hour class I am taking; and at six in the school cafeteria for another meet and eat. The day would end with a visit to the Station Inn, a local honky-tonk, to sit and listen to one of my favorite groups which would take me up to a home arrival of midnight or later. During the day, I checked in with my wife, called her to see how her day was going and if she needed anything. Also, she knows she is always welcome anytime to join me in any of these activities should she so desire.
As I said in the beginning, there are a countless number of things I appreciate about her, and yes, one of them is “space,” the space she gives me; and I trust she feels she receives in return. Something very important in a relationship is just that,space. Space to be and do who you are, while also being considerate of another’s desires and needs.
“If you hold love too loosely,
It will fly away. If you hold
Love too tightly, it will die.”
(Tom T. Hall)
As I said, I appreciate her for “countless things;” space just happens to be one of many.
October 11, 2013